In this competitive world establishing the WIN-WIN situation is something that takes to develop or maybe some people are born with it. As for me I have spent the better part of the last two years working on this habit without knowing it. I'm still struggling at times with this because I was raised in a very competitive household where WIN-WIN was not necessarily what we looked for. We were more of a WIN-Lose household than anything end. So this value that I learned as a child has followed me to my present career as an administrator. I'm not going to diminish the progress I have made on this habit because I have. Recently, I have begun to see the teachers I work with as people that need to be motivated and that problem solving and compromise are words that need to become a constant in my vocabulary. As I look at this habit I know this is how I can increase my sphere of influence with my staff because this is the way they will feel part of the process and part of the solution to whatever issue or problem arises.
As a way to teach this habit to my staff member that I have been working with I have decided that the best way for me to teach this to her is to discuss examples where I have done WIN-LOSE and LOSE-WIN, basically scenarios. Then I will ask this person what would be some things that I could of done to make that situation a WIN-WIN. This way not only can I reflect on my own experience but also have a honest dialogue about what it takes to have a WIN-WIN. I will also ask for examples of situations were she has felt the situation has been lose-lose, win-lose and lose-win to analyze possible things that can make the situation WIN-WIN. Finally, I will ask this person why is a WIN-WIN a better result than any other and discuss the reasons why this is a better solution than any other.