Recently, I have begun to become a better listener and I have seen such a change in the way people have approached me and my leadership style. For example, the other day we began implementing technology in one grade level were we had some hesitation about the implementation. For the longest time my style of listening was to get my thoughts in my head ready to win the argument or have my way. But since I have begun to actually listen to my teachers I have begun to feel like I actually have made a bigger difference in how we implement certain things. The less of an agenda I have when going into a conversation with my fellow teachers the more of what my initial goal gets accomplish. If I start with the end in mind and focus on that, just in that goal and then listen to my fellow teachers the more of that goal gets accomplish. Does that not mean I cave in or decide they are right but by actually listening I feel my teachers become empowered versus me just telling them what to do.
Now as far as how to teach this to the person I have been working with, well I will use myself as an example once again. I believe that showing how I have failed to implement these habits in the past has hurt my sphere of influence is always the best way to teach someone. More precisely, I will discuss how listening is a great way to actually understand the other person and that even if you don't agree with them the positive interaction both of us will have will set the stage for further collaboration. I will use the example of this teacher above (sorry for privacy issues I'm leaving the even vague) but I will mention how now I feel I can up to that teacher and have an honest discussion about our goals in terms of technology and that progress will be made.